I remember my first pair of heels. I mean, “MY” heels. Not the ones I took out of my grandmother’s closet and walked around the house in, thinking I was Vanessa Williams. I mean, my own actual high heels. I was 14 years old and I was going to one of my first major dances, and I wanted to wear heels because all of my friends were wearing them.
After trying on a variety of shoes, I found a pair of cute black heels with a strappy back that matched my dress perfectly. I remember my grandmother saying, “You need to break the shoes in before you go to the dance.” Of course, I didn’t really pay attention to her and I didn’t really care what she was saying. I had on my first…real..heels! It was the night of the dance, and I looked adorable. I got dressed and met my friends at my neighbor’s house to take pictures. It was around this time that my feet began to hurt. But I didn’t think about it because I was trying to be cute.
Fast forward to a few hours later and only a handful of dances, and I was sitting at a table in tears with my heels in my lap. I didn’t listen to my grandmother when she said I need to break the heels in. I needed to get comfortable in the uncomfortable shoes, if I wanted to have fun at the dance. Those heels are a lot like personal growth. If you want to get to a part of your life where you feel ease, happiness and comfort, you have to be willing to put in all of the uncomfortable work. And the path of personal growth can be an uncomfortable one.
Most of the clients I work with come to me with needs to improve their lives in various areas. Whether it’s building confidence, shattering self-doubt or crushing limiting beliefs, these and many other areas are never an easy fix. They take time and a serious deeper look at internal struggles, past trauma and old narratives. Too often, people see personal growth as a woo woo form of Self Care. You just journal each night, while drinking a hot cup of tea, or go on a gratitude walk. And while all of those things are helpful ways to find peace or serenity in a moment, in order to get there, we need to do some hard work.
But I need you to understand that there is beauty in the hard work. There is something wonderful about seeing your efforts pay off when you are able to look yourself in the eyes, past all of the hurt and see a clearer future full of hope and love. To see how far you’ve come and know that you have the tools to succeed. So, if you are ready to live a life that is loud and bold, to step into your new transformative era, to stop wishing to do things and actually DO them, then The Self Love Social Blueprint is for you.
What if you had a tailored 12-week coaching program that allows you to do all this and more? With weekly worksheets, journal prompts, podcast suggestions and adventure guides, The Self Love Social Blueprint will allow you to pursue your passions in 2025, rather than just leave them to be the inspiration on your Vision Board. Make the choice to live out your dreams TODAY!
Desiree Simone 
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