I’m a singer by nature, or birth, or however you want to call it. My mother is a singer, my uncle plays drums, my grandmother was a pianist, my grandfather was a pretty famous jazz musician, and I’m the grandniece of a famous jazz pianist. Music is my life. Because music plays a big part in my genetic makeup, it also plays a big part in my dating life.
Whenever I’m in relationship with someone, I find that I get to a point where a certain song embodies that person and our relationship. Sadly, when the relationship ends, that song becomes one of the many things that I must cast aside in order to heal and move on. However, there are some that stay sacred just to me because they are part of “The Playlist.”
I don’t know about you, but there are some songs that are just your go-to mood enhancers. I enjoy a variety of them for different dating reasons. A great song to cook in the kitchen on a date. The song that plays in the car during your first kiss. The ultimate song for when you both climax. I feel that it is my musical duty to educate you, my dear reader, on a few songs that I have found helpful in different situations. Perhaps this will be a musical education for some of you, but at the end of the day, I hope the music gives you the same joy that I received!
“I’m Kissing You” by Des’ree: This may seem like an obvious choice because it says the action in the title and the artist name is similar to mine. And I may be showing my age by picking a song off the 1996 “Romeo + Juliet” Soundtrack, but I don’t care. Her voice is so soulful and painfully beautiful, that if you aren’t able to grab a woman’s face and kiss her till her toes curl, then I have failed as a person.
Netflix and Chill:
“Comfortable” by Matt Cusson: This is a cover of the amazing John Mayer song. (Don’t worry, John’s on this playlist). To me, it feels like the perfect lazy Sunday song, where you are both wrapped in a blanket, binging STRANGER THINGS. After about three episodes and your toes playing footsie, this song allows you to move into a nice, subtle make-out session.
“Samba de Bencao” by Bebel Gilberto: I have an entire Bebel Gilberto station that is my go-to for when I’m in the kitchen. And if you haven’t had a date where you both are cooking together, I highly recommend it. I heard this song for the first time on the “Eat, Pray, Love” soundtrack and instantly fell in love. I mean, it’s in Portueguese, how sexy is that?
Slow Dance Under the Stars:
“Like a Star” by Corinne Bailey Rae: Guys, if you want to pull out some high level romantic crap, but don’t know what to do….stop the car on a starry night, play this song and slow dance with your girl. It just may get you out of any argument that you may have in the next 30 days. Honorable Mention: There is an amazing version of this song with Corinne, John Mayer and John Legend. I mean…come on!!!!
“The Beautiful Ones” by Prince: Ok, I KNOW I am showing my age with this one. But seriously, if Prince isn’t somewhere on your playlist, then you obviously don’t know music. I sometimes like to take my time from the make-out to the actual bed action. (Shut up…I do!) When I do, I truly enjoy the moment where you are both so into each other and just want it to last a bit longer before you get to business. In that moment, it’s just you, that special someone and Prince. If you both aren’t naked by 3:25, you soon will be!
“Gravity-Live” by John Mayer: Screw all you John Mayer haters…seriously! Whether it’s post coitus or you just want to be super sexy, taking a shower together can be hot as all hell. Before you get the suds going, you’re gonna want to crank up this song. It needs to be the LIVE version, though. The music nerd in me goes nuts for the guitar solo at the end, and you will too!
“Crash Into Me” by Dave Matthews Band: DMB has some great songs that will get you in the mood, that I feel are often overlooked. This is a great song to gently wake up to the person next to and grab into the perfect spooning position. Warning: If you need to kick someone out of bed ALA “Coyote Ugly” do NOT play this song!
Until Next Time or The Walk of Shame:
“Glory Box” by Portishead: I’m old, we get it! This has been a favorite of mine since I heard it on “The Craft” soundtrack. Whether you’re kissing each other goodbye and planning your next date, or you’re putting on your Jager drenched dress driving down 75 to make it home, this is the perfect song for you. Just to bring it full circle and current, Alessia Cara sampled this song in her record “Here”. Don’t worry, either version will work.
Remember when I said I had some songs that I had to cast aside because the relationship ended. Hopefully, if you find yourself in a similar situation, you can get to the point in your life when you can listen to them again. Here are a few of mine that I am happy to see back in my playlist. And for the guys these songs are related to, thank you for giving me those good memories!
“Come Live With Me” by Ray Charles
“I’m Gonna Be (500 Miles)” by Sleeping At Last
“See You Tonight” by Scotty McCreery
“No One Else” by Amel Larrieux